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7th Jul 2025

Why Men Are Falling Apart and What It Really Takes to Rebuild | Joe De Sena | EP 460

🔥 Episode Summary:

This conversation will punch you in the face — in the best way.

Joe De Sena, founder of Spartan and Tough Mudder, returns with one of the rawest, most necessary wake-up calls for men today.

We break down the hard truth: men are getting soft. Comfort is killing purpose. We’ve lost our edge — and Joe’s here to help you take it back.

Joe unpacks:

– Why modern life is designed to make men weak

– When the decline actually started (and it wasn’t just the iPhone)

– How the pandemic nearly destroyed Spartan — and why he didn’t quit

– What actually builds grit in kids (and why parents are failing)

– What to do if you're stuck, soft, or spiraling

– Why movement is the cure for grief, depression, and weakness

– The rule that carried Joe through hell: The standards don’t change

This isn’t motivation. It’s a call to arms.

🧠 What You’ll Learn:

🔥 How comfort destroys resilience

🔥 Why the world doesn’t want you strong

🔥 Joe’s survival story from losing $100M

🔥 The power of adversity in shaping identity

🔥 Why kids need structure, struggle, and discipline

🔥 The mindset that separates warriors from victims

🔥 Why you need hard dates and high standards to thrive

⏱️ Chapters:

00:00 – The Biggest Problem Men Face

02:25 – When It All Started to Go Wrong

05:56 – Losing $100M & Refusing to Quit

11:30 – The Mental Toll of Constant Pressure

15:54 – When Naysayers Show Up

18:53 – Why Society Doesn’t Want You Fit

22:09 – Grief, Loss & Movement as Medicine

24:56 – Raising Gritty Kids: Camp Sparta

27:50 – The “Quitter’s Office”

31:56 – Why Adversity Must Be Ongoing

36:45 – What To Do When You’re Stuck

38:29 – Dates on the Calendar = Identity Shifts

39:05 – What’s Next for Spartan

🧔‍♂️ About Joe De Sena:

Founder and CEO of Spartan and Tough Mudder.

Ultra-endurance athlete. Bestselling author.

On a mission to rebuild a stronger, grittier society.

📘 Explore Joe’s World:

🎟 Free Spartan Race Ticket – Email: joe@spartan.com

🏕 Camp Sparta (Death Camp for Kids) – Subject: Camp Sparta

🌍 Spartan & Tough Mudder – https://www.spartan.com

📲 Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/realjoedesena

🌐 Website – https://joedesena.com

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About the Podcast

University of Adversity
Welcome to University of Adversity, a podcast where we explore the human experience of overcoming obstacles and achieving personal growth through real-life stories of accomplished individuals. From professional athletes to NY Times bestselling authors, celebrities, spiritual leaders, doctors, scientists, and billionaires, we bring you a diverse range of perspectives on the challenges and triumphs of adversity. Each episode is designed to provide listeners with inspiration, motivation, and practical tools to help them navigate through difficult times. We cover a wide range of topics related to mental health, personal development, self-improvement and resilience building, offering expert insights and actionable advice. Join us as we discover how to overcome adversity, cope with stress, and achieve your goals on this journey of self-discovery and personal growth, highlighting the stories of the everyday heroes among us.

About your host

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Lance Essihos

As an experienced veteran with adversity, Lance has faced some of life's most difficult challenges. Grinding his way through the hockey ranks to traveling the world as a bartender. Through his personal battle with drugs and alcohol for well over a decade, the tragic loss of his brother to suicide followed by the great loss of his father to cancer only a year later, Lance realized he had hit rock bottom. In the darkest of days, he made a promise to himself that he would create a new life, one that would make an impact and inspire the masses, leaving the world in a better place than he found it. Lance has made it his mission to facilitate the message of positive change through adversity and encourage people to see the light through the darkness of life's worst moments.